You will start to overcome your squalor the moment you believe you deserve better than squalor. When you know in your heart you won't settle for squalor any more.
At that point, you look at your surroundings and realise what a task lies in front of you! The first question that usually follows is...
Where do I start?!
You probably feel overwhelmed and discouraged. That's normal. But don't let those feelings prevent you freeing yourself from squalor.
You will have to make changes from the way you have done things up until now, if you want to get different results. The patterns of thought and behavior that led you to create and maintain your mess can be changed, with time.
It will help you to declutter, organize and clean your home if you learn to recognize why you hold on to your mess. On the other hand, I believe the process of sorting out your internal "stuff" and the stuff in your house, can occur in tandem. Working on either area has the potential to help the other.
It is quite true what Philosophy says: that Life must be understood backwards. But that makes one forget the other saying: that it must be lived—forwards. The more one ponders this, the more it comes to mean that life in the temporal existence never becomes quite intelligible, precisely because at no moment can I find complete quiet to take the backward-looking position.Søren Kierkegaard
Taking action to improve your situation will make you feel better about yourself. Feeling better about yourself will strengthen you to make further strides. An upward spiral is created.
The strides can be small, baby steps. Like a baby, you often land on your butt! But babies learn to walk, and then run, because they pick themselves up and try again.
Steps you need to take
- Create for yourself a living space, maybe half a room to start with
- Increase your appropriate use of space
- Improve your decision-making skills
- Organize your possessions
- Discard unneeded items
- Prevent future squalor